I applaud anyone for building his or her brand. Let's be honest, in today's shaky economy, I think it is important to have multiple streams of income.
But there is a point when you also have to know your limitations, and stay in your lane.
Apparently, Steve Harvey did not get that memo!
A few years ago, he wrote a book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. There have even been two movies centered around the book. Steven Harvey is thrice married, and twice divorced, has cheated on each wife with the current, and when the two previous Mrs. Harveys would not go away quietly, he drug them through the court systems with nasty divorces and child custody hearings. Does this sound like someone who you want to take relationship advice from?
Like one of his tenets in the book is that a woman should wait 90 days before she has sex with her new man. Not when there is chemistry. Not when she feels comfortable. Not after they have taken mutual STD tests. Just when the clock strikes 90 days. Steve's claim is that a man will respect you more, and you have more chance of becoming his wife, like that is every woman's ultimate goal (rolls eyes).
This was one of those books that I knew was not for me, so rather than blast Steve for it, I just simply passed on it, and kept it moving.
Recently, he acquired Paul Deen to mentor black boys in culinary arts. The same Paula Deen publicly ridiculed for publicly uttering a racial epithet and treating her minority employees like modern day slaves, and again, I gave Steve a pass.
Now Mr. Harvey has a dating website, and this is not just any website, It is website to teach women how to become more dateable. Yep, you read that correctly!
So now ladies, you can find your soulmate, but only if you are dateable, and maybe you can find and marry a man like Steve Harvey, who will only respect you if you make him wait 90 days for sex, while he cheats on you with the next Mrs. Harvey, and then divorces you while disparaging and defaming your character during divorce and custody proceedings.
Doesn't that just sound like a prince ladies?
Steve, I liked you better when you just told jokes, made us laugh, and went on about your business. Go back to that, and leave the relationship advice to the experts, you know the ones with actual psychology and counseling degrees, or the ones who have actually sustained a healthy, monogamous relationship for more than a Hollywood minute.
Above all, cut the misogynistic bullshit. I am sure that if any woman wants relationship advice, there are plenty of mothers, aunts, female cousins, and other community women who could do a much better job building their self-esteem and giving relationship advice.
Until next time....
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