I saw a recent Instagram post of Beyonce' and Mama Tina Knowles. They were decked in their Grammy attire, and had their middle fingers up with a "f the haters" message. Now some say it was their way of getting back at the Grammys for snubbing Beyonce' for the best album award. The truth is it may have been about that, or it may have been something totally different. The overall thing is their fingers, their business.
This week, I had a personal situation where I was challenged, and of course, I was expected to take the high road; and I didn't, and I decided to be petty instead.
The very people who elected the orange tyrant who is now acting like a 70 year old toddler, and the very people who consistently disrespected President Obama for eight consecutive years, now want people to take the high roads, and come together in love (rolls eyes).
I for one say, turning the other cheek, being the bigger person is highly overrated, and sometimes you have to let people know, that you are done taking their shit.
As I celebrated my 40th year of life a few months ago, I have been constantly doing self-reflection and trying to look for the lesson or the message in every experience. The lesson that I learned this week, is that sometimes people mistake niceness for weakness, and they will completely get out of control, if you let them continue to use and abuse you. In other words, sometimes you just have to let folks know who you are, and what you will not tolerate. Besides, what good is it in taking the high road and turning the other cheek, when you are miserable because all you wanted to be was petty?
And for those struggling with morality and their moral consciences, remember that even Jesus turned over their tables in the temple when he became angry over the thievery going on, and this same Jesus wants you to have an abundant life.
So take the high road if you truly believe that is what is right, but if your spirit, and your desire to be happy, say be petty, will petty you need to be!
Until next time......
Saturday, February 18, 2017
Saturday, February 11, 2017
Black Church: It is Time to Put Up or Shut Up
Since the election of Sunkist Hitler, it seems folks are losing their collective minds. What is even more disturbing are the number of people being passive and trying to get along, and with the let's just accept that he is president, mentality. Meanwhile, Sunkist Hitler is filling his cabinet with white nationalists, people unqualified for their positions, banning thousands of Muslims from this country, ICE are conducting raids in six states, and North Korea and China are ready to nuke us, but yes, let's just getting along with the 70 year old toddler.
But the most distressing thing is the silence and passiveness of the church. Last week, Tina Campbell, one half of the gospel group Mary Mary wrote a love letter to Trump, about how she was praying for him and how Christians need to practice love, yada, yada. This is the same Tina, who smashed her husband's vintage car after he cheated on her....I wonder where was this loving spirit then?
Then there is Donnie McClurkin who on yesterday posted that we need to support Sunkist Hitler and stop resisting..what Donnie? Oh, like you are resisting coming out of the closet sir? (Okay, that was a low blow, but Jesus loves the truth!).
When I think of the church and what it should look like in these perilous times, I think of Dr. Rev. William Barber, Raleigh minister, President of the NC branch of the NAACP, and organizer and founder of Moral Mondays. His leadership, voice, and refusal to remain status quo, have been a beacon of hope. More church leaders and anyone who calls themselves Christians, need to follow his lead.
Prayer is great and life affirming, but Jesus calls us to be doers and putting faith into action. Because while you are praying, Sunkist Hitler, is trying to take us back to the 1950's, and I for one, believe that the God, who I serve, wants a more abundant, prosperous life for me! Hallelujah somebody!
Until next time......
But the most distressing thing is the silence and passiveness of the church. Last week, Tina Campbell, one half of the gospel group Mary Mary wrote a love letter to Trump, about how she was praying for him and how Christians need to practice love, yada, yada. This is the same Tina, who smashed her husband's vintage car after he cheated on her....I wonder where was this loving spirit then?
Then there is Donnie McClurkin who on yesterday posted that we need to support Sunkist Hitler and stop resisting..what Donnie? Oh, like you are resisting coming out of the closet sir? (Okay, that was a low blow, but Jesus loves the truth!).
When I think of the church and what it should look like in these perilous times, I think of Dr. Rev. William Barber, Raleigh minister, President of the NC branch of the NAACP, and organizer and founder of Moral Mondays. His leadership, voice, and refusal to remain status quo, have been a beacon of hope. More church leaders and anyone who calls themselves Christians, need to follow his lead.
Prayer is great and life affirming, but Jesus calls us to be doers and putting faith into action. Because while you are praying, Sunkist Hitler, is trying to take us back to the 1950's, and I for one, believe that the God, who I serve, wants a more abundant, prosperous life for me! Hallelujah somebody!
Until next time......
Please Leave Barack and Hillary Alone
It never fails, as Sunkist Hitler better known as you'll President Trump (he will never be mine, and I rebuke that contrary spirit, which says otherwise) leads us to the brink of World War III, as our economy hastens toward The Depression of the 1920's and 1930's, as race relations head back to the 1950's and 1960's Civil Rights Movement, each day I see at least one post asking where Hillary and Barack are; well, I will tell you: they are private citizens. I need for you to repeat that three times, one for the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, so leave them alone.
Barack gave you'll 12 years (two terms as POTUS, four as a state senator) and over 20 years as a community organizer in Chicago! Hillary has given you over 40 years (12 as First Lady of Arkansas, 8 as First Lady of this country, 8 years as a NY senator, 4 years as SOS, and over 20 years practicing law focusing on the impoverished and disenfranchised). Let them rest! They have served well, long, and let them flourish.
When we had both fighting for us, we did not appreciate them. To the know everything, woke blacks, Barack was an Oreo, Uncle Tom who didn't do enough for blacks. For Liberal whites, his hope and change, didn't come fast enough, so they reverted to their subtle racist ways. For Conservative whites, his black skin and him holding the highest office in the country was enough to send them reeling. And then there are the sane Americans like myself, who realize that despite his missteps and imperfection, his heart, mind, and decision making were always working for the greater good of our fellow citizens!
To the know everything, woke blacks: Hillary said superpredator back in 1996, so that made her racist (rolls eyes), she was the same as Trump, and she only pandered for black votes. To Liberal whites, they didn't like her because she chose to stand by her husband when he cheated on her, she didn't place white people's needs ahead of other marginalized groups, and she got rich by giving speeches (rolls eyes). To Conservative whites, she was a woman (and according to their Bible, and their white Jesus, women belong one of two places: in the bedroom or the kitchen, but never in charge; oh, and she liked niggers, which were strikes two and three).
So despite Hillary and Barack warning you for over two years, you voted third party, you told lies on Hillary and Barack, or you stayed home, and now we have a 70 year old toddler to contend with.
But Amerikkka built this, so it is up to us as "private citizens", the sane ones of us, who recognize that there is no such thing as the perfect candidate, but just the one with the least imperfections, the sane ones of us, who vote not because we "like" someone or because they promise us free stuff, but because we look out for our fellow citizens who may be seriously screwed if the more flawed candidate gets in the chair, which is the predicament that we are in now
So leave Hillary and Barack alone. If they choose to fight with us, all well and good, but if they don't, they have long fulfilled their commitments to us. Instead, focus that energy on the people in office, whose salaries your tax dollars actually pay, to do their jobs, and to protect the interests of all citizens, and not the fairer skin, wealthy types!
Until next time.....
Barack gave you'll 12 years (two terms as POTUS, four as a state senator) and over 20 years as a community organizer in Chicago! Hillary has given you over 40 years (12 as First Lady of Arkansas, 8 as First Lady of this country, 8 years as a NY senator, 4 years as SOS, and over 20 years practicing law focusing on the impoverished and disenfranchised). Let them rest! They have served well, long, and let them flourish.
When we had both fighting for us, we did not appreciate them. To the know everything, woke blacks, Barack was an Oreo, Uncle Tom who didn't do enough for blacks. For Liberal whites, his hope and change, didn't come fast enough, so they reverted to their subtle racist ways. For Conservative whites, his black skin and him holding the highest office in the country was enough to send them reeling. And then there are the sane Americans like myself, who realize that despite his missteps and imperfection, his heart, mind, and decision making were always working for the greater good of our fellow citizens!
To the know everything, woke blacks: Hillary said superpredator back in 1996, so that made her racist (rolls eyes), she was the same as Trump, and she only pandered for black votes. To Liberal whites, they didn't like her because she chose to stand by her husband when he cheated on her, she didn't place white people's needs ahead of other marginalized groups, and she got rich by giving speeches (rolls eyes). To Conservative whites, she was a woman (and according to their Bible, and their white Jesus, women belong one of two places: in the bedroom or the kitchen, but never in charge; oh, and she liked niggers, which were strikes two and three).
So despite Hillary and Barack warning you for over two years, you voted third party, you told lies on Hillary and Barack, or you stayed home, and now we have a 70 year old toddler to contend with.
But Amerikkka built this, so it is up to us as "private citizens", the sane ones of us, who recognize that there is no such thing as the perfect candidate, but just the one with the least imperfections, the sane ones of us, who vote not because we "like" someone or because they promise us free stuff, but because we look out for our fellow citizens who may be seriously screwed if the more flawed candidate gets in the chair, which is the predicament that we are in now
So leave Hillary and Barack alone. If they choose to fight with us, all well and good, but if they don't, they have long fulfilled their commitments to us. Instead, focus that energy on the people in office, whose salaries your tax dollars actually pay, to do their jobs, and to protect the interests of all citizens, and not the fairer skin, wealthy types!
Until next time.....
Sunday, January 15, 2017
Eddie Long: It's Time to Tell the Truth and Shame the Devil!
There is this sickening move to "canonize" people when they die. They could have been the most morally bankrupt individual this side of the Mississippi, but when they die, church people try to transplant them to heaven themselves. If you tell the truth, you get responses like, "Only God can judge", "he has the last say," "don't speak ill of the dead." The rhetoric is strong and nauseating. But aren't you'll judging or trying to do God's job by trying to canonize or place the individual in heaven? The greater the person's prominence in church, the more dissent you receive!
Well, it's time to tell the truth about Eddie Long! (Yes, I know he was a "bishop", but his mama named Eddie, so I am going to call him Eddie). The truth is this man who was pastor of a megachurch with a population of 25K was a child molester! Receive this three times: one for the father, one for the son, and one for the holy spirit.
We can argue semantics all day. The state of Georgia lists the age of sexual consent at 16. For you parents, out there, how comfortable are you with your 16 year old consenting to sex with someone who is three times their age? As with any child predator, Eddie Long "groomed" these boys prior to the predatory sex. He sought them out. Four boys, raised by single women, who were poor, who he felt he could seduce with trinkets (clothes, jewelry, out of town excursions, etc). This all started when these boys were around 14-15. He was smart and strategic enough to build their trusts by playing the part of a father figure, and their spiritual advisor as their pastor. I am sure some screwed up theology probably played a role as well. Then when they became legal age, the sex began! Again, I ask you, what parent would be okay with an almost 50 year old, married man, with children older than his victims, would be okay with said man having sex with your 16 year old? The adult, 40 year old me, says my 16 year old self was not mature enough, worldly enough, or savvy enough to consent to sex with someone three times my age. I am asking you to think like a rationale adult and a parent, not a mindless sheep in awe of this mega pastor.
Eventually, Eddie was exposed. Of course, he denied it, and he and his heathen church members set out on a quest to defame and discredit his accusers. But what he did not do, is actually fight their civil suits. No what Eddie did was paid them "hush" money, and swore them to not to talk about their allegations. Therefore, they were made to look like money grubbing golddiggers, reprobate gay men, and any other negative connotation the church people could find to vilify them. Eddie on the other hand, never apologized (he paid hush money, so it is always his word against theirs), he kept his church, and his mindless sheep, I mean members, still hung on his every word with each given Sunday.
So why does this bother me so much? Because Eddie is the worst kind of sinner: an unrepentant one. If you believe in the Bible and the idea of sin, one of the tenets to becoming a Christian is being sorry and repentant! If you never admit wrongdoing or contrition, then you can't be forgiven....isn't that what the Bible says, or did I read a different book from the rest of you? So by Eddie never admitting his sin (molesting these boys), he can't be forgiven. So why you all are trying to catapult him into heaven, keep in mind that he has left carnage in the form of four men, who revered him as a father figure and their spiritual advisor. The trajectory of their lives are forever changed, and all you care about is your hero worship of a man, who was only interested in his private jet, his expensive suits, his S-curl. To add insult to injury, while Eddie was fleecing his flock, he was also preaching damning messages against homosexuality, leading anti-homosexual rallies, and even trying to convert his homosexual members via conversion therapy. (This is all available via Google if you don't believe me).
So while you are praising the good bishop's name (There is also a commandment about having other gods by the way), vilifying his victims, justifying his atrocious behavior with your "no judging" cliches, there are real lives he touched, and not in a spiritual way, but in a sexual, carnal, and very predatory way, and for that, I don't grieve nor I am sympathetic towards him. I save those feelings for those four young men whose lives he changed forever!
Until next time.....
Well, it's time to tell the truth about Eddie Long! (Yes, I know he was a "bishop", but his mama named Eddie, so I am going to call him Eddie). The truth is this man who was pastor of a megachurch with a population of 25K was a child molester! Receive this three times: one for the father, one for the son, and one for the holy spirit.
We can argue semantics all day. The state of Georgia lists the age of sexual consent at 16. For you parents, out there, how comfortable are you with your 16 year old consenting to sex with someone who is three times their age? As with any child predator, Eddie Long "groomed" these boys prior to the predatory sex. He sought them out. Four boys, raised by single women, who were poor, who he felt he could seduce with trinkets (clothes, jewelry, out of town excursions, etc). This all started when these boys were around 14-15. He was smart and strategic enough to build their trusts by playing the part of a father figure, and their spiritual advisor as their pastor. I am sure some screwed up theology probably played a role as well. Then when they became legal age, the sex began! Again, I ask you, what parent would be okay with an almost 50 year old, married man, with children older than his victims, would be okay with said man having sex with your 16 year old? The adult, 40 year old me, says my 16 year old self was not mature enough, worldly enough, or savvy enough to consent to sex with someone three times my age. I am asking you to think like a rationale adult and a parent, not a mindless sheep in awe of this mega pastor.
Eventually, Eddie was exposed. Of course, he denied it, and he and his heathen church members set out on a quest to defame and discredit his accusers. But what he did not do, is actually fight their civil suits. No what Eddie did was paid them "hush" money, and swore them to not to talk about their allegations. Therefore, they were made to look like money grubbing golddiggers, reprobate gay men, and any other negative connotation the church people could find to vilify them. Eddie on the other hand, never apologized (he paid hush money, so it is always his word against theirs), he kept his church, and his mindless sheep, I mean members, still hung on his every word with each given Sunday.
So why does this bother me so much? Because Eddie is the worst kind of sinner: an unrepentant one. If you believe in the Bible and the idea of sin, one of the tenets to becoming a Christian is being sorry and repentant! If you never admit wrongdoing or contrition, then you can't be forgiven....isn't that what the Bible says, or did I read a different book from the rest of you? So by Eddie never admitting his sin (molesting these boys), he can't be forgiven. So why you all are trying to catapult him into heaven, keep in mind that he has left carnage in the form of four men, who revered him as a father figure and their spiritual advisor. The trajectory of their lives are forever changed, and all you care about is your hero worship of a man, who was only interested in his private jet, his expensive suits, his S-curl. To add insult to injury, while Eddie was fleecing his flock, he was also preaching damning messages against homosexuality, leading anti-homosexual rallies, and even trying to convert his homosexual members via conversion therapy. (This is all available via Google if you don't believe me).
So while you are praising the good bishop's name (There is also a commandment about having other gods by the way), vilifying his victims, justifying his atrocious behavior with your "no judging" cliches, there are real lives he touched, and not in a spiritual way, but in a sexual, carnal, and very predatory way, and for that, I don't grieve nor I am sympathetic towards him. I save those feelings for those four young men whose lives he changed forever!
Until next time.....
Friday, January 13, 2017
You Will Not Normalize Trump To Me: Not Today Satan
Inauguration Day is less than a week away. January 20th is the day designated according to the Constitution for the official changing of presidential administrations, and I am seeing a strange pattern among my fellow Americans, instead of resistance, you are giving up. Instead of calling out Trump's deplorable behavior, you are trying to normalize; well, my response is the same mantra that I use for life: "Not today Satan."
Before you go normalizing his behavior, why don't we run down a list of his most blatant transgressions.
1. 1970's-Donald Trump was relatively new to the real estate market, but guess who he outright refused to rent or having any business dealings with? You got it, black people! The man who is now supposed to represent the entire American population, discriminated against a large segment.
2. Central Park 5.-In 1989, just a little over a decade after he refused to rent or lease to blacks, he falsely accused four black boys, and a Hispanic one of raping a female jogger. Even though DNA evidence has since cleared them, as late as 2016 and while on the campaign trail, he still defamed their characters, and has never publicly apologized.
3. He raped his first wife! Ivana Trump, mother to three oldest children, once accused Trump of rape. However, Trump had the accusations and records sealed as part of the divorce agreement.
4. He is on tape saying he likes to grab women by the private parts. Remember this admission and the actions that cost Billy Bush, an NBC News anchor, his coveted position with the network.
5. Several Miss America contestants have accused him on inappropriate touching and/or being in their dressing rooms while they undressed.
6. Publicly questioned President Obama's citizenship, which led to the rise of the Birther Movement, which in turn forced President Obama to show a long form copy of his birth certificate. He led this campaign for five straight years.
7. A young lady who was a 13 year old when she encountered Trump, accused him of molesting her. She had a pending court case, as late as October of this year.
8. He has publicly called Mexicans rapists.
9. He has publicly called all Islamic citizens members of ISIS.
10. Brought former mistresses' of Bill Clinton to the second debate and sat them in the press box as an intimidation tactic towards Hillary, circled her like a vulture during the entire debate, and told her publicly that he was going to "lock her up."
Do I need to go on? So no, you will not normalize this man to me.
If you are that weak, and chicken hearted, that you want to play along to get along, go ahead, but don't criticize or open your mouth to me when I give him just as much disrespect, passive aggression, racism, Islamphobia, as his has given President Obama and so many others. If you are a Christian, with your "God is in control," and I am going to pray my way through shenanigans, you need to find another church and pastor, because you are being spiritually bamboozled. If you are white and saying, get over and let it go, this means your ass is too privileged to be affected by his shenanigans. If you are black and talking that get along foolishness, I am going to remind your black ass that you are indeed black, after I violently cuss (not curse) your stupid, Uncle Tom ass out! And until we find a suitable replacement for President Obama, he will always be my president, and the only Donald who I will acknowledge is Donald Duck.
Until next time....
Before you go normalizing his behavior, why don't we run down a list of his most blatant transgressions.
1. 1970's-Donald Trump was relatively new to the real estate market, but guess who he outright refused to rent or having any business dealings with? You got it, black people! The man who is now supposed to represent the entire American population, discriminated against a large segment.
2. Central Park 5.-In 1989, just a little over a decade after he refused to rent or lease to blacks, he falsely accused four black boys, and a Hispanic one of raping a female jogger. Even though DNA evidence has since cleared them, as late as 2016 and while on the campaign trail, he still defamed their characters, and has never publicly apologized.
3. He raped his first wife! Ivana Trump, mother to three oldest children, once accused Trump of rape. However, Trump had the accusations and records sealed as part of the divorce agreement.
4. He is on tape saying he likes to grab women by the private parts. Remember this admission and the actions that cost Billy Bush, an NBC News anchor, his coveted position with the network.
5. Several Miss America contestants have accused him on inappropriate touching and/or being in their dressing rooms while they undressed.
6. Publicly questioned President Obama's citizenship, which led to the rise of the Birther Movement, which in turn forced President Obama to show a long form copy of his birth certificate. He led this campaign for five straight years.
7. A young lady who was a 13 year old when she encountered Trump, accused him of molesting her. She had a pending court case, as late as October of this year.
8. He has publicly called Mexicans rapists.
9. He has publicly called all Islamic citizens members of ISIS.
10. Brought former mistresses' of Bill Clinton to the second debate and sat them in the press box as an intimidation tactic towards Hillary, circled her like a vulture during the entire debate, and told her publicly that he was going to "lock her up."
Do I need to go on? So no, you will not normalize this man to me.
If you are that weak, and chicken hearted, that you want to play along to get along, go ahead, but don't criticize or open your mouth to me when I give him just as much disrespect, passive aggression, racism, Islamphobia, as his has given President Obama and so many others. If you are a Christian, with your "God is in control," and I am going to pray my way through shenanigans, you need to find another church and pastor, because you are being spiritually bamboozled. If you are white and saying, get over and let it go, this means your ass is too privileged to be affected by his shenanigans. If you are black and talking that get along foolishness, I am going to remind your black ass that you are indeed black, after I violently cuss (not curse) your stupid, Uncle Tom ass out! And until we find a suitable replacement for President Obama, he will always be my president, and the only Donald who I will acknowledge is Donald Duck.
Until next time....
Saturday, December 31, 2016
I Bid 2016 Adieu
I don't make New Year's resolutions because I never keep them, so what I do is I look back over the past year, and examine ones that I learned: some through heartache, some through joy, and others being a mixture of both of those feelings.
So heading into 2017, here is what I learned:
1. I don't like people-No, I tolerate most because my million and one jobs say that I have to, but if I could barricade myself inside my home, with some good books, good tv/movies, and make some money, and only have to talk to others via text messaging, emails, and only on my terms, this would be the life for me. So one of my goals for 2017, is making sure that I seek out more job opportunities where I can make this a reality.
2. Most white people are racist! Before you get your panties in a bunch: In 20 days, Tangerine Hitler, a man who built his entire campaign on misogyny and racism, and who has filled his top cabinet positions with individuals from white nationalist groups; who 53% of white women voted for and 66% of white men, is about to be president of this country. So we can go into semantics, but you and I both know how percentages work, anything over 50% means a majority; hence, my use of the term "most". Rather than getting mad and indignant, work on being better individuals.
3.Most black people are more concerned with acceptance than liberation. We can say "black lives matter" all day, but until we learn to create and cultivate our own, stop looking for validation in white spaces, stop policing our own, stop with the social media memes denigrating our women, giving back when we "make it" rather than telling others to stop complaining, we are truly not invested in liberation; we just want to be accepted!
4. Most men don't like women. Sure you like what's between their legs, sure you like your mothers, sisters, and other females related to you, but you don't like them as a whole. How do I know? Because I have conversations with you, and unless sex is involved or some objectification of their bodies is involved, you have nary a good word to say. Or your constant social media memes disparaging women in some form. Or if there is some disagreement, you are always going to take the side of the man, even if you "know" the woman, and the man is a complete stranger to you. Don't get mad, do better!
5. I must lookout for self more. Nope this is not a bitter woe is me declaration; this is just gospel based upon 2016 and over 40 years of life experiences. I have always been a giver, not because I wanted to, but because I wanted to be liked. There is something that messes with your psyche when a parent abandons you. You feel unworthy, so as a result, you give more than you should to keep even the most undeserving individuals in your life. You overcompensate! I learned some real hard lessons via work, family, friendships, etc, about learning to look out for self because others will, no matter how much you sacrifice (I am typing this now on my death bed, on Day 3 of some sickness, which I am sure is a lesson of some kind!).
And this all I got...nothing profound; Will certainly piss off some, but I tell MY truth. The best thing about those most difficult lessons in life is that once you truly learn them, they carry you over a lifetime, and you can educate others!
Happy New Year to all!
Until next time....
So heading into 2017, here is what I learned:
1. I don't like people-No, I tolerate most because my million and one jobs say that I have to, but if I could barricade myself inside my home, with some good books, good tv/movies, and make some money, and only have to talk to others via text messaging, emails, and only on my terms, this would be the life for me. So one of my goals for 2017, is making sure that I seek out more job opportunities where I can make this a reality.
2. Most white people are racist! Before you get your panties in a bunch: In 20 days, Tangerine Hitler, a man who built his entire campaign on misogyny and racism, and who has filled his top cabinet positions with individuals from white nationalist groups; who 53% of white women voted for and 66% of white men, is about to be president of this country. So we can go into semantics, but you and I both know how percentages work, anything over 50% means a majority; hence, my use of the term "most". Rather than getting mad and indignant, work on being better individuals.
3.Most black people are more concerned with acceptance than liberation. We can say "black lives matter" all day, but until we learn to create and cultivate our own, stop looking for validation in white spaces, stop policing our own, stop with the social media memes denigrating our women, giving back when we "make it" rather than telling others to stop complaining, we are truly not invested in liberation; we just want to be accepted!
4. Most men don't like women. Sure you like what's between their legs, sure you like your mothers, sisters, and other females related to you, but you don't like them as a whole. How do I know? Because I have conversations with you, and unless sex is involved or some objectification of their bodies is involved, you have nary a good word to say. Or your constant social media memes disparaging women in some form. Or if there is some disagreement, you are always going to take the side of the man, even if you "know" the woman, and the man is a complete stranger to you. Don't get mad, do better!
5. I must lookout for self more. Nope this is not a bitter woe is me declaration; this is just gospel based upon 2016 and over 40 years of life experiences. I have always been a giver, not because I wanted to, but because I wanted to be liked. There is something that messes with your psyche when a parent abandons you. You feel unworthy, so as a result, you give more than you should to keep even the most undeserving individuals in your life. You overcompensate! I learned some real hard lessons via work, family, friendships, etc, about learning to look out for self because others will, no matter how much you sacrifice (I am typing this now on my death bed, on Day 3 of some sickness, which I am sure is a lesson of some kind!).
And this all I got...nothing profound; Will certainly piss off some, but I tell MY truth. The best thing about those most difficult lessons in life is that once you truly learn them, they carry you over a lifetime, and you can educate others!
Happy New Year to all!
Until next time....
Kim Burrell and The Black Church
Kim Burrell is catching the venom of many in the social media circle due to a sermon she preached where she referred to homosexuals as "perverts" and said all with that spirit would die in 2017. We are going to overlook the fact that she is scheduled to appear and perform on Ellen in nine days, or that she collaborated with Frank Ocean on her last album, because hypocrisy in the church is never a thing right?
Before you go clutching pearls, getting irate, and having a meltdown, I am going to tell you a little piece of advice my late grandmother gave me over 30 some years ago "consider the source." This is what she always told me when I became enraged over some infraction someone enacted against me. In other words, if we know people to be of a certain group and to dispense a certain rhetoric, why should we be surprised when certain ilk comes out of their mouths?
This is not a debate over the wrongness or rightness of homosexuality; this is more of a truth defining moment. Yes, Kim spoke her mind and even supported it with scripture, but the truth is Kim is not alone. Many feel that way about homosexuals. Your pastors do, even though they have no problem using the musical gifts of your gay musical director. Many of your moms, aunts, cousins do, but have no problem with their gay hairdressers "hooking up their hair".
How many of you are "out" to your family members; yet, they still tell gay jokes? How many of you are "out" to your family and friends; yet, faggot will escape their lips at a moment's notice, when they get mad at a gay person. As long as it is not directed at you, it's all gravy right? This is a poignant lesson in the old adage of "go where you are celebrated, not tolerated." Maybe, it is time for many to practice some self-love and leave those people (family, friends, associates, etc) and things (church) in 2016, which do not embrace the total you, and not just your gifts, which benefit them. But as long as you have your tithes and offering, we are cool right?
The church finds one thing to focus on, and they beat it to death, and what time and experience have taught me, focusing on homosexuality, makes it easier to overlook the "sins" that they are committing.
Some years ago, I got a revelation about the importance of building a relationship with Christ, which was not focused on a building, other people, or outdated practices, and since then, my life has been more free, less judgmental, and I have been liberated. Maybe all of you should do the same!
Until next time....
Before you go clutching pearls, getting irate, and having a meltdown, I am going to tell you a little piece of advice my late grandmother gave me over 30 some years ago "consider the source." This is what she always told me when I became enraged over some infraction someone enacted against me. In other words, if we know people to be of a certain group and to dispense a certain rhetoric, why should we be surprised when certain ilk comes out of their mouths?
This is not a debate over the wrongness or rightness of homosexuality; this is more of a truth defining moment. Yes, Kim spoke her mind and even supported it with scripture, but the truth is Kim is not alone. Many feel that way about homosexuals. Your pastors do, even though they have no problem using the musical gifts of your gay musical director. Many of your moms, aunts, cousins do, but have no problem with their gay hairdressers "hooking up their hair".
How many of you are "out" to your family members; yet, they still tell gay jokes? How many of you are "out" to your family and friends; yet, faggot will escape their lips at a moment's notice, when they get mad at a gay person. As long as it is not directed at you, it's all gravy right? This is a poignant lesson in the old adage of "go where you are celebrated, not tolerated." Maybe, it is time for many to practice some self-love and leave those people (family, friends, associates, etc) and things (church) in 2016, which do not embrace the total you, and not just your gifts, which benefit them. But as long as you have your tithes and offering, we are cool right?
The church finds one thing to focus on, and they beat it to death, and what time and experience have taught me, focusing on homosexuality, makes it easier to overlook the "sins" that they are committing.
Some years ago, I got a revelation about the importance of building a relationship with Christ, which was not focused on a building, other people, or outdated practices, and since then, my life has been more free, less judgmental, and I have been liberated. Maybe all of you should do the same!
Until next time....
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