I Bid 2016 Adieu

I don't make New Year's resolutions because I never keep them, so what I do is I look back over the past year, and examine ones that I learned: some through heartache, some through joy, and others being a mixture of both of those feelings.

So heading into 2017, here is what I learned:

1. I don't like people-No, I tolerate most because my million and one jobs say that I have to, but if I could barricade myself inside my home, with some good books, good tv/movies, and make some money, and only have to talk to others via text messaging, emails, and only on my terms, this would be the life for me. So one of my goals for 2017, is making sure that I seek out more job opportunities where I can make this a reality.

2. Most white people are racist! Before you get your panties in a bunch: In 20 days, Tangerine Hitler, a man who built his entire campaign on misogyny and racism, and who has filled his top cabinet positions with individuals from white nationalist groups; who 53% of white women voted for and 66% of white men, is about to be president of this country. So we can go into semantics, but you and I both know how percentages work, anything over 50% means a majority; hence, my use of the term "most". Rather than getting mad and indignant, work on being better individuals.

3.Most black people are more concerned with acceptance than liberation. We can say "black lives matter" all day, but until we learn to create and cultivate our own, stop looking for validation in white spaces, stop policing our own, stop with the social media memes denigrating our women, giving back when we "make it" rather than telling others to stop complaining, we are truly not invested in liberation; we just want to be accepted!

4. Most men don't like women. Sure you like what's between their legs, sure you like your mothers, sisters, and other females related to you, but you don't like them as a whole. How do I know? Because I have conversations with you, and unless sex is involved or some objectification of their bodies is involved, you have nary a good word to say. Or your constant social media memes disparaging women in some form. Or if there is some disagreement, you are always going to take the side of the man, even if you "know" the woman, and the man is a complete stranger to you. Don't get mad, do better!

5. I must lookout for self more. Nope this is not a bitter woe is me declaration; this is just gospel based upon 2016 and over 40 years of life experiences. I have always been a giver, not because I wanted to, but because I wanted to be liked. There is something that messes with your psyche when a parent abandons you. You feel unworthy, so as a result, you give more than you should to keep even the most undeserving individuals in your life. You overcompensate! I learned some real hard lessons via work, family, friendships, etc, about learning to look out for self because others will, no matter how much you sacrifice (I am typing this now on my death bed, on Day 3 of some sickness, which I am sure is a lesson of some kind!).

And this all I got...nothing profound; Will certainly piss off some, but I tell MY truth. The best thing about those most difficult lessons in life is that once you truly learn them, they carry you over a lifetime, and you can educate others!


Happy New Year to all!


Until next time....