Being Mary Jane and the Power of Choice

If you haven't watched this week's episode of Being Mary Jane, you might want to stop reading right now!

If you have, then you know Mary Jane wrecked her relationship with the "good guy" Lee for a fling with the bad boy/corporate asshole Justin.

Viewers clutched pearls, screamed at their televisions, and  called her every name in the book. Because as a 40 year old black woman, people feel that if you have a good relationship, that you should stay in it for the long hall, that you should settle, in other words, be damned if you as a grown ass woman decides to make decision, which doesn't jell with what everyone else wants for your life.

This made me think about a few things!

I don't think  Mary Jane wants a husband and baby. Those are things society has told her, and all of us who happen to be over 30, unmarried, and childless, that we should desire. I can't tell you the number of friends and relatives, male and female alike, who have placed themselves in long term relationships, marriages, refused to get divorced, had children that they didn't want, because society told them that this was the next step, or that they were at an age where this needed to happen.

Instead of doing what their hearts desired, which is to remain single and childless, they placed themselves in these impossible situations or drove themselves crazy because they didn't have these things, instead of telling these folks to mind their business. The truth is some of the very folks judging you, and trying to get you hitched and with child, are miserable, and misery loves company, so they want you to be as miserable as they are.

Even Jesus said that he wanted us to have life, and have it more abundantly, and sometimes that includes a spouse and children, and sometimes that means being eternally unattached.

The older I become, the more happy unattached I am. I am not a loser, less than, or a failure. I am happy, at peace, and fulfilled.

The overall thing for the fictional character Mary Jane, and anyone over 30 to remember is, life is short. Not matter whether you have 50 or 100 years, live your best life, even if that means going against the grain. You will make bad decisions; we all do, but a decision doing what you want to do, regardless of public opinion and without worrying about public opinion, is much easier to deal with than one made, trying to live for others' approval.

Just some food for thought!

Until next time....